Archive for April, 2010


Nurses and Elderly Men in Pain

29 April 2010

A number of interesting studies are out there on men and pills. 

A first to share, regarding elderly men.  A 1980s study on nursing wards found that male patients were given a higher number of pain pills than their female counterparts.  The nurses’ “consistent attitude was that if a male patient complained of pain it must serious because everyone knew that male patients were a tough lot and should be taken seriously.  On the other hand, they had a different attitude to their fellow females, who were generally considered by these nurses to make a great fuss about minor problems and therefore were to be brushed off with a minimal response” (Patrick Wall, Pain: The Science of Suffering [New York: Columbia UP, 2000], 66).


Recovering Childhood in Worship: Two Male Leaders

27 April 2010

Intriguing to note how male worship leaders in Evangelical Christian circles have started to lead congregations into times of childishness before God.  I don’t want to sound too biased against the trend by calling it “childish”; I simply mean that these leaders in their worship pursue a sense of renewed innocence, child-like dependence, and simple joy in the presence of God the Father.  Perhaps the phenomenon exceeds the male/female divide, but I see it led most often by male worshipers.  Let me offer two examples.

David Crowder became prominent in the late 1990s through affiliation with the Passion organization.  As one of the most creative songwriters among Evangelicals he implemented Casio keyboard loops, samples, and a keen sense for the catchier elements of independent rock.  He also worked the sound “La la la la la la” into a surprising number of songs.  What normally would have been associated with the Smurfs, Crowder was able to make into a chorus of abandonment before God.  Generally he places it at the end of a song, a kind of childish doxology of sorts, as in the concluding seconds of “O Praise Him,” or live, at the end of other songs, such as this one.  Crowder’s lyrics are relatively poignant for a modern worship writer, which may explain why he offsets the more substantial words with nonsensical sounds.  The former attunes the worshiper, the latter releases one into God’s presence.

Jason Upton, a charismatic worship leader known for a prophetic, almost militant style in the footsteps of Keith Green, has employed an even more diligent pursuit of renewed childhood.  When I saw him last in 2007, he was touring with an interesting blend of worship.  He sang some very aggressive and warlike songs.  Then, about half-way through, he described to the crowd that he had been sensing a need to “just be a child in God’s presence,” to cry out, “Abba, daddy, Father.”  Upton proceeded to lead a number of Sunday school songs and original ditties, including a song he wrote with his daughter about a dog hanging its head out of a moving car’s window.  Upton assured us that it was okay to let God give us a new innocence, that it didn’t please Him to be serious and morose all the time.

I can only offer a couple of suggestions as to what might be going on here.  Leaders like Crowder and Upton sense a need for abandonment before the Almighty.  They lead a kind of drama in worship that allows worshipers to re-chart their own value as a child, loved and protected by their Father (who probably must heal the damage done by earthly fathers).   The intensity of the worship environment needs a kind of release valve, a stepping back into the Garden of Eden (or playground), even if only for a song.  Crowder and Upton have a special ability to do this, I suspect, because they are men.  They themselves have an aura of masculine authority out of which they grant permission to others to be innocent babes again before God.  Secular rock stars have the ability to allow others to let their hair down, drink and debauch.  Male worship leaders use their charisma as entertainers to do something far more significant: identify others very overtly as children of God.


Encouraging Stories from Men about Men

14 April 2010

It takes no more effort than tuning in to the evening news in order to find bad news about men: embezzelment, abuse, theft, corruption, cheating, molestation, lies.  But that isn’t the only word.  Here are a couple other sources to hear about positive things men are doing with their lives.

Tom Matlock founded the Good Men Project, devoted to capturing stories from men about the key decisions they’ve made to become honorable fathers, sons, husbands and friends.   A DVD and a book have each been released, and an introductory video is available online.

Sidney Poitier recently released his third memoir, entitled Life beyond Measure: Letters to My Great-Granddaughter.   Above and beyond his breakthrough roles as a black actor, Poitier testifies to a life of courage and character, and reveals insight about his own father, whose lack of education and opportunity never kept him from passing on remarkable character to his children.


Praying to the Virgin… in a Manly Way

3 April 2010

Even as a practicing Roman Catholic, David Calvillo had felt for years that praying the rosary was for old women.  But for men?  Manly men? 

Then, at a retreat, he went through the 59 beads (53 “Hail Marys” and six “Our Fathers”) with a large group of men.  It changed his attitude, and now he is trying to change other men’s minds about the vital importance of praying to the Virgin Mother. 

Calvillo, himself an accountant (and champion of his fantasy football league, he is quick to mention), encourages men to take up their rosary as part of the solid platform for being a godly man.  Praying to Mary, rather than being a capitulation to feminine power, is actually “a weapon of spiritual warfare” to help men overcome their temptations (Wall Street Journal, 2 Apr 2010, A5). 

Catholic men are taking notice, sometimes trading in their unused, feminine beads for newer, manlier ones.  One man has made a rosary out of ball bearings.  One manufacturer has come up with novelty designs for boys, including a rosary with football-shaped beads.  Calvillo, who himself has been known to use an iPhone rosary application, sells products and encourages this masculine subculture on his web site,